A moment of love, even in a bad person, can give meaning to a life.*

Goa, India, 2013
Goa, India, 2013

Hi World (meaning: the earth, together with all of its countries and peoples); it has been over 3 decades that I have known you, and, we were never too young to be friends during all these days of life.

It was wonderful to connect with old pals and “names” I remembered during the years I grew up. I assume, the joy must be similar for other’s who first took up the social networking sites. Thanks to Orkut and Facebook.

By the time we connected on Facebook, this time, only as acquaintance, we had grown much beyond our school and college days and were now capable of understanding the meaning of our actions and repercussions.

I am sorry, if during this time and tenure, something unfortunate happened about/with life. I now see some people on social networking sites with very different personality than most of my friends and associates. I, like most others, have friends from all religions, some of them in India, and several across the border. None of them seem to have trouble as much as some very few seem to have and is being expressed continuously.

There’s nothing wrong in pointing out what’s incorrect, but to point something unidirectional and with hatred will only, will continue to divide the already divided world today. Whom is it really helping and going to help? “When was the last time the world wasn’t falling apart?”*

While I kept watching most of these posts on FB about how a certain section is discriminating against the others, I actually failed to see them pointing out any silver line and the good things which have actually happened. Additionally, why are we growing so insensitive towards sentiments of another sect? I have resided outside India and have never seen people complaining about not getting meat of a particular animal which would hurt the religious beliefs of the society their. Why shouldn’t the society be mature here to acknowledge the same here then?

This post is not to taunt but I request these persons to take it personally, and evaluate whom are you benefiting by your continuous posts and hatred. Are you really getting those “100” likes for your posts? There is injustice at every corner and region of the world, you can either create awareness or fight, but re-instating your belief and personal thought demeaning the other, is never going to benefit or bring progress. Like non – Muslims’ there are and will be innumerable Muslims who have been affected and devastated by the heat and rage of few. You know it and we all know it. Let’s not propagate which sect is more damaging and devastating. I was trying to counter few of these hatred posts and thought of searching some material towards the same, and surprisingly got over 300 articles within a span of 30 days. I later realized that there’s no maturity and sense in treating a situation with tit for tat. As rightly said, “an eye for an eye; will make the world blind”. On the contrary I also found and though about those wonderful experiences and stories available online which depict and showcase the meaning of peace and harmony to co-exist in the very same society.

What is the point and for how long will we continue to feed the ugly animal inside us, instead of looking out for better and positive outlook for life? As human beings, there can be better means of dealing with problems and issues, only dogs have to bark to communicate. For how long should we get blinded by polarized views of few and change our hearts, instead of betterment of our own society and generations to come?

Interesting story – Please don’t bribe

Yesterday, 29th September it was a routine day with lot of travelling and meetings as usual. Since I used to have driver for my vehicle earlier, I have better temperament towards traffic signals, fortunately. I do not accelerate with seconds closing in or on orange light usually, unlike before.

Interesting incident about yesterday was the fact when a traffic cop assumed I had jumped a signal and approached. Upon being convinced that I actually had not jumped the signal, he tried pointing out towards other issue. While the issue was definitely legitimate, but I am certain majority of vehicle owners must not be aware of the same.

The only awareness I had, was the penalty information for offence which cannot be “exorbitant”. I was asked to pay a fine of Rs. 1000… All I knew was for lack of vehicle reverse etiquettes; I hopefully shouldn’t be fined for Rs. 1000.  All I knew was the fine amount may not be actually Rs. 1000 (and even if it was, I would pay it at the collection office) and that I will not pay cash without valid chalan. That too, after allowing motorists to jump signal on the other side of the road, when it was my turn.

As it turned out, the modest traffic cop wasn’t keen to give me the receipt and I was not ready to pay any amount lesser than Rs. 1000 (without chalan). “Considering this as first time offence, I was absolved by the modest cop and I thanked him gracefully”.

We both knew how and what transaction was expected and there was bound to be disappointment for one of us. Fortunately, it was my turn not to be disappointed this time.

Further (if you have time to read)

I have spent time assisting traffic cops, though for a very brief period of time on certain occasions. Most often, it is indeed the offender who argues and wants to evade the signal, rules and eventually getting the chalan. The first action is denial, then rebellion and then persuasion towards discounting. We often conveniently forget who the offender is but are quick to jump on the conclusion; who’s the corrupt. It is the chasm within which we find others to fill, and blame.

The bond of faith


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Year 2014, a dynamic year in my life, wherein my better half visited USA for long term and I decided to take several path breaking changes in my life.

To start with, decision to be away from spouse itself was a bold decision. Secondly I decided to move to owned apartment which was in an absolute secluded and underdeveloped satellite area. This move also unfortunately ensured distancing from mom & me, and me from myself, unintentionally. But it had its own damage, only to be discovered over a period of time. Soon I realized, being with the same organization is not helping me achieve the goal I intended to achieve, hence I quit the same.

Giving a fresh start or as I call it, a paradigm shift once again to my career path, I had a new beginning. In all these variations and deviations, I could see the alienation from regular course of life activities and everydayness. Friends, family, spouse, inner peace, none of them were at resonance anymore. My irritation was not with the current state, but the inability to find a solution and also what was the real reason behind this entrapment.

Just then, it was one off period, when you’re suddenly active on social site or any particular activity like a sudden rise and fall in the tidal movement. I invariably made some new friends and preferences. I am sure you might be able to relate with it. During this period, I came across a person from social site who incidentally was from the same locality where I lived. As much as I was interested to meet this person and know more with curiosity, little did I know was the big surprise. Enter Daniel, the 1.5 yrs old Rottweiler, the massive ferocious pet this person had. I could not have got a better de-stresser and piece of joy.

Luckily, the age group and interests weren’t not too uncommon and I was able to spend substantial time with this wonderful family of 3 (husband wife and Daniel). There are times you connect with people and become friends due to ideas, need and environment, but for me it was the attraction of Daniel which prompted and ensured regular visits. Over a period of time we became better friends now. It is funny to describe to someone, how I got to know someone on a social networking site just little over a year ago and now we are more than friends, sharing and comfortable sharing every possible activity and secret of our lives.

Those random walks with Daniel, movie plans with husband-wife, meat shopping for Daniel L and jumping in stray ponds with Daniel, activities performed never before, these were my serendipity moments and of course I enjoyed them. Had it not been for Daniel’s unconditional love, had it not been for my short term activeness on social site, had it not been for the positive thoughts shared with the couple, none of this would’ve occurred. Sometimes, these lighter moments help and make noticeable contributions in day to day life.

While rest all matters of inner peace was far from attainment but at-least as of date, I have a direction to work upon. All I have is faith and hope, which I have come to realize how small touch points can contribute and make difference in life. Faith makes it possible. And I surely have a live (Daniel) inspiration to look up to.

A different beat!!

We all live and shall continue to survive till we have an active heart beat. Living for yourself and beloved ones is natural. Only when we realise the true happiness to live for other’s, we understand the meaning of “a different beat”.

The first time I heard about “a different beat” was when I was in 9th grade and it was a song by “Boyzone” and that’s how I really got inspired to act upon it.. almost 16 years and I am still working on it 🙂

The basis of human life (right from the moment we are born) till the time we cease to, is defined by our heartbeat. Irrespective of what we choose to do and behave in our life, we cannot change the universal law of survival and that is still measured by our pulse (heart beat)… It is the rhythm of life (lab dab) and is the most peaceful and amazing experience to feel when you hear that for a new born or even your own when in peace and silence.

Mankind has always recognised those who had the ability and dared to mark a different beat. We are certainly fortunate, as compared to our previous century predecessors, for whom it was matter of life and death for exercising their freedom, which seemed a luxury  back then. Their heart did beat, for making a difference, not just for society but for themselves…

It is very common and humane to live for yourself and accomplish your goals and objectives. It matters most when you develop an ability to live for others. It is a rare feat not everyone can achieve it. We all know it and have experienced it at some point in our life.

Commonly people call it helping others, often the one’s who exercise it realise they are only helping themselves. Contentment has many names…